I love the saying,
"Growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional."...
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I'm a jump first, ask questions later kind of gal. I don't actually LIKE running, but it's a sport where you can't escape yourself. In 36 years on this planet, you'd think I know who I am. But strip away the titles, the roles, the degrees, the certifications, who are we, really? That's the question I've been trying to answer.
"Get in the shower NOW!" I sternly said through snot and sneezing, As I learned that my son and his friends got into the Ant Killer Spray my husband left on the deck. Allergies blazing like Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer, I had enough of this day. CLUNK. "Son of a..." The Muskoka chair my husband was building came apart as he tried to lift it up. I ran over to him, blood running down his head. This is a hairy, scary, antsy, very bad day.
I'm a business and wellness coach. I KNOW BETTER. I've been 130 lbs, 250 lbs, a size 2, a size 14, but none of that matters.
We worry. That we aren't smart enough. That we don't know enough people. That we aren't fit enough. That we are screwing up our kids. That people are judging us. That our business is a failure. That we don't have enough clients. That we will sound stupid. That we will make a mistake. That we will lose money. All of these potential worries stops us from building the body we want and the business we want.
Vulnerability can suck, but it can also be a beautiful way to connect. To let people only see the highlight reel, with social media and statuses and filters is selfish. We expect perfection and if we don't have it, we feel less than. We feel insignificant. But once you've created a dream for your life, you have to expect that you've also created the barriers because you had the courage to let it be known.
A huge myth in business is that you have to grow a "following." A following isn't what you need. Followers never take action. They spectate. Criticize. Idolize. One minute they love you, the next, hate you. Then they've moved onto the next person to "follow." And where they go and their opinion doesn't matter. Your concern should be if the people around you ever take action.
You see, hurt people, hurt people. But you can't take it personal. Haters used to destroy me. Growing up as a people pleaser, I was WRECKED if someone didn't like me. In fact, I wanted people to like me so much that I forgot who I was. I forgot what I wanted. I forgot about my own needs and my health. Forget path of purpose, I didn't think that far. And it costs me a lot of time, happiness, and memories.