The more we peddled, the more water our boat took in, without us knowing. As the water started to fill the back, and it was almost completely underwater, we grabbed our son and hauled him into the front. He started shaking and crying. It was only a matter of seconds before the whole boat was going under.
I'm a business and wellness coach. I KNOW BETTER. I've been 130 lbs, 250 lbs, a size 2, a size 14, but none of that matters.
Have you ever been at a seminar or speech and when the "pitch" starts to happen and you say to yourself, "well here we go." It's because that speaker hasn't earned your trust yet. They haven't given you incredible value. So I will always sell to you. I will always make an offer because if I don't, some other person is going to come in and muck it all up for me.
I believed money got you the things you wanted, and it does. But money blocks will prevent you from that next level. When I first opened my business, I felt greedy asking for more money and charged peanuts for my services. That led to frustration and burn out.
I STILL catch myself green with envy somedays when I look at others, but I know envy, comparison, and assumption isn't a path I want to stay on. In the words of my mentor, Bo Eason, "Players PLAY. Spectators.. well. spectate!" There are 3 big moves you MUST make in your life to get exactly what you want. For me, it was 3rd row (I'm shooting for 1st next time around) at a concert of my dreams. What would it be for you?
I've been an emotional eater for pretty much as long as I can remember. Acting out of impulse and fear. No one wants to raise their hand and own up to that fact that they can't handle their emotions. Me especially. Ask for help? Admit that I don't have it all together! No way! But why the hell shouldn't we?
"I watched your story and it didn't have any impact on me. It was ' I am Lisa, look how strong I am, I want you to know that I struggled, but now I'm good. I have it all together, and I want you to as well.' Ouch. The story expert coach was right.
The way you present yourself on a stage, video, meeting, at the gym, in the bedroom, wherever you are aiming for greatness, you need an alter ego to play. Beyonce flips to Sasha Fierce when she wants to, Stefani Germanotta puts on meat dresses when she's Lady Gaga, and I'm pretty sure Madonna isn't walking around in her cone shape bras at home, but that becomes their reality. That's their part in the arena, when they have to play.
We worry. That we aren't smart enough. That we don't know enough people. That we aren't fit enough. That we are screwing up our kids. That people are judging us. That our business is a failure. That we don't have enough clients. That we will sound stupid. That we will make a mistake. That we will lose money. All of these potential worries stops us from building the body we want and the business we want.
Vulnerability can suck, but it can also be a beautiful way to connect. To let people only see the highlight reel, with social media and statuses and filters is selfish. We expect perfection and if we don't have it, we feel less than. We feel insignificant. But once you've created a dream for your life, you have to expect that you've also created the barriers because you had the courage to let it be known.