Let's be honest. You see all these hot bods on Instagram and you think they have it all figured out. You see the highlight reel on Facebook of people smashing their workouts, dropping dress sizes, and eating lettuce, And you can't cope. You can't ever imagine a day where you look in the mirror and say, "Damn. I'm sexy." Or maybe you do, but then one "bad" choice in food sends you down a tunnel of sabotage. I'm here to turn on the lights in that tunnel and pull you out.
Clearing, cleansing, letting go, call it what you will. We all need to do it, but I kept coming back to the HOWWWWWWWWWW. How do I do it? Meditate. I struggle. Journal. WHO HONESTLY HAS TIME FOR THAT? Don't get me wrong I brain dump, but journal through my issues. 30 Years, This could take awhile. I never knew where to START. And perhaps the fear of starting, brought out fears of what I would uncover.
"So let me tell you a story about what happened to me today......" What's your first gut reaction when you hear those words?" "Oh Christ, here we go." Then the internal dialogue kicks in, "How freaking long is this going to take? I have to pick up the kids, make those calls, groceries..." And you, as the listener, have missed the point of the message.
It's not your lack of focus. It's not social media. It's not your email. It's not the dishes in the sink or the laundry in the basket. It's not the dog that's begging you for a walk. It's not that you don't know enough. Here's the real reason you're holding back...
You are selling a better life. And you can't put a price tag on that solution. I don't know how to monetize that moment when a mom gets to kiss her kids goodnight instead of working a late night shift at the hospital. I don't know how to monetize the face of your kids at Disney for the first time. I don't know how to monetize waking up from the best sleep of your life with no stress.
Sometimes lying still and being OK with your thoughts, is empowerment. Empowerment is releasing the coulda, shoulda, wouldas, and accepting what's out of your control. Empowerment is getting out of bed when the depression and anxiety tries to paralyze you. Empowerment is eating without guilt or emotion. Empowerment is saying YES to yourself, and NO to the demands of others. Empowerment is asking for help when you need it. Empowerment is looking in the mirror and saying,"I will do my best today.
Because if your health sucks, it all sucks. If your relationships are failing, you don't care about being well. If you're stressed about putting food on the table, you aren't making time for your workout. Money. Love. Work. Confidence.. It's all connected.
2017 was a detox year for me. I knew I wanted to feel confident, comfortable, assertive, happy, and energized, and in order to do that, I had to detox negative thoughts, feeling, and people out of my life. They were going wayyyy left and I had to go way right. And it resulted in some unfriending on my part, and their unfriending of me. But the big change for me was not having the indecisiveness about it.
I read a statistic that by Jan 15th more than half of people have ALREADY ditched their resolutions. Really? We can't even make it longer than 2 weeks? That's a scary statistic to me, because I see this more than what it is. It's not a moment or fad that passes. It's not "chalk it up to another silly resolution failed." It's lack of discipline.